Dr. Herman's Rules for a Happy Life


 

The mind is what makes every person a human being.

The mind is divided into two parts: the rational part and the emotional part.

One should seek tranquility of mind by using the rational part of the mind to control the emotional part.

Negative thoughts such as fear, sadness, regret, jealousy, inadequacy, or anger are all based on emotion and should be recognized as ideas that can be controlled by reason.

Perseveration is a thought process where negative thoughts occur repeatedly in the mind causing one distress.

To achieve tranquility of mind, one should practice an active mental program, on a continuous basis, where the rational part of the mind recognizes a negative thought pattern and confronts that thought directly.

Here are some examples: “I am feeling nervous because I have to…,” or “I am feeling angry because…,” or “I am feeling really down because…”

Here are confrontational strategies: “I am feeling nervous about…, but I am going to do my best and will accept whatever the outcome will be.”   “I am feeling angry because…, but anger interferes with my ability to solve a problem using powers of reason.”   “I am feeling really sad because…, but unavoidable things happen in life and I will try to cope better in the future.”

If perseveration becomes an issue, one should simply say, “I am not going to repeat this tape in my mind over-and-over again because it makes me unhappy.”

On waking each morning and before retiring each night one should repeat the following: “I’m going to do my best to have tranquility of mind from now on.”

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